Okay, so, today I wanna talk about something that’s been on my mind lately – wellness checks. Now, don’t get me wrong, I get it. We all care about our friends and family, right? But sometimes, things can get a bit out of hand.
It all started a few weeks ago. I went through a pretty rough patch. Work was crazy, I had a falling out with a close friend, and just felt generally down in the dumps. I decided to take a little break from social media, you know, just disconnect for a bit and focus on myself. I told a couple of my closest friends what was going on, figured that was enough.
Well, apparently not. One of my more… enthusiastic friends, let’s call her Sarah, took it upon herself to check on me. Constantly. Like, multiple times a day. First, it was texts. Then calls. Then emails. Then she started showing up at my apartment.
At first, I appreciated the concern. I really did. It’s nice to know people care. But it quickly started to feel less like concern and more like… I don’t know, surveillance? It was overwhelming.
Here’s a quick rundown of what happened:
- Day 1: I posted a vague “taking a break” message on social media.
- Day 2: Sarah texted me a few times, just casual “hey, how are you?” stuff. I responded, said I was fine, just needed some space.
- Day 3: The calls started. I didn’t answer. I figured she’d get the hint.
- Day 4: More calls, more texts. She started reaching out to our mutual friends, asking if they’d heard from me.
- Day 5: She showed up at my apartment. Unannounced. I was honestly a bit freaked out.
I ended up having to have a pretty blunt conversation with her. I told her that while I appreciated her concern, her constant checking was actually making me feel worse. It was like she didn’t trust me to take care of myself.
She was pretty upset at first, but eventually, she understood. We talked it out, and things are better now. But it got me thinking – when does a wellness check cross the line into harassment?
I mean, I get wanting to make sure your loved ones are okay. But there’s a difference between checking in and constantly bombarding someone with calls, texts, and surprise visits. It’s important to respect people’s boundaries, even when you’re worried about them.
So, yeah, that’s my story. It was a weird and uncomfortable experience, but it taught me a lot about the importance of communication and respecting boundaries. And hopefully, it’ll make you think twice before you bombard someone with “wellness checks.” Sometimes, a little space is all a person needs.
