Okay, so, I’ve been thinking a lot about what I really want in a boyfriend. You know, not just the usual “nice guy” stuff, but like, what actually makes someone a good partner for me? So I decided to make “the boyfriend list.”
First off, I grabbed my favorite notebook and a pen – gotta have the right tools, right? I started by just brainstorming all the qualities I admire in people, not just romantic partners. Stuff like kindness, a good sense of humor, and being able to hold a decent conversation without looking at their phone every two seconds.
Then, I dug a little deeper. What are my values? What’s important to me in life? I jotted down things like honesty, being supportive of my goals (and me being supportive of his, of course), and sharing at least some common interests. I mean, we don’t have to like all the same music or movies, but it would be cool to have a few things we both enjoy doing together. Like some common hobbies or sports.
- Respect is a big one. I want someone who respects my boundaries, my opinions, and just me as a person. That’s non-negotiable.
- Support. It might sound chessey, but I want to be with some guy who encourages me to chase my dreams, even if they’re a little crazy. And I’ll do the same for him.
- Friendship. Ideally, the partner should also be a friend first. So that we can understand each other more.
After I had this big list of traits, I started organizing them. I put the absolute must-haves at the top – those were the dealbreakers. Then came the things that would be really nice to have, but maybe not essential. And at the bottom, I put some stuff that was more like “bonus points.” Like, it would be awesome if he was a great cook, but I’m not gonna dump a guy just because he can’t make a gourmet meal.
It took a few days, and I kept adding and tweaking things. I even talked to a couple of my close friends about it, just to get their perspectives. Finally, I had my “boyfriend list.” It’s not a rigid checklist or anything, but it’s a good reminder of what I’m looking for in a relationship. You know, a way to keep my standards high and not settle for less than I deserve.
I think everyone should make a list like this, honestly. It helps you figure out what you really want and what you don’t want. And hey, even if you don’t find Mr. Perfect right away, at least you’ll have a better idea of what you’re looking for. And maybe you can find the right dating sites using this list as well!
