Okay, so, I’ve been trying this thing lately, you know, about “speaking life” into my man. I read about it somewhere, and it sounded kinda cheesy, but I figured, why not? Here’s how it went down.
The First Attempt (and a Few Flops)
First, I started by just, like, noticing things. Before, I’d mostly just complain – dirty socks, late nights, whatever. But I tried to flip the script. Instead of, “Ugh, you left your towel on the floor AGAIN,” I went with, “Hey, thanks for taking a shower! You smell good.” Cheesy, I know, but it was a start.
The first few times, it felt super awkward. I think he even looked at me like I was growing a second head. He mumbled something like, “Uh, thanks?” and quickly moved away. I almost gave up then, honestly. It felt forced, and I figured I was just being weird.
Finding My Groove
But I kept at it. I realized I needed to be genuine, not just spewing random compliments. So I started paying more attention to the things he actually does well. Like, he’s a killer cook, way better than me. So one night, after he made this amazing pasta, I said, “Seriously, babe, this is restaurant-quality. You’re so talented in the kitchen.”
That one landed. He actually smiled, a real smile, not that confused look from before. He even puffed up his chest a little. It was kinda cute.
Building on the Positives
From there, I just kept building.
- I thanked him for working hard, even when he was stressed.
- I told him I appreciated his help with the kids.
- I even complimented him on his driving skills (which, let’s be real, are pretty good).
It wasn’t always perfect. Sometimes I still slipped and complained. But I noticed a shift. He started being more affectionate, more helpful around the house, and just generally more… present. It was like I was watering a plant that had been wilting, and it was finally starting to perk up.
The Takeaway (So Far)
So, is this “speaking life” thing a magic bullet? Nah. But it’s definitely made a difference. It’s reminded me to focus on the good stuff, and that seems to be bringing out the best in both of us. I’m still figuring it all out, but it’s been a pretty cool experiment so far. I’m definitely going to keep trying. It is far more rewarding to build up than to tear down.
